Unabashedly Female

  • Right now, there is a force calling us forth to be beautiful, to be completely and absolutely and openly ourselves. Yes, it is a very persistent and fierce force, like truth always is, because, as Andrew Harvey says, ‘Everything is at stake, and everything is possible.’ This force is compelling women to blossom. Fully. In all our feminine majesty. It is time. ~  Julie Daley

If you are not familiar with Julie Daley’s, Unabashedly Female blog, you are missing out on one of the most inspiring woman writers today celebrating the sacred feminine, beauty, and sensuality. I’m a huge fan.

There is something very raw, honest and bold about Julie’s writing. She knows how to connect with her readers and she makes all women proud to be female. But also, this woman exudes love, a deep kind of love that makes you feel safe in the world.

More importantly, Julie shines a light on the importance of all humans honoring the feminine essence and soul, and that our very survival as a species may be riding on this. I couldn’t agree more.

I am honored and thrilled to share her thoughts on reverence, and most grateful for her time. I welcome your comments below.

Briefly, what are your thoughts on reverence as it pertains to the world today?

When I consider reverence, I see it as a two-way mirror. I haven’t always seen it that way.

It’s only after a whole bunch of deep inner work that I’ve come to know that the depth of love we feel for the outer world is directly tied to the depth of love we feel within ourselves, for ourselves.

When you’ve spent your whole life longing to be deeply loved, the kind of love that young children need to feel they belong here, and then you finally come to know that depth of love, deep in your heart, everything changes. For me, I came to realize, in my body, that I am a part of this earth and a part of everything that exists, both in the outer realm and in the inner realm.

In our culture, to pay reverence is to bow with deep respect. But what happens often is a kind of outward projection of one’s own worthiness, holiness and purity onto another person. When this happens, there is no balance between the inner and outer worlds.

It’s not healthy when reverence is only facing outside. When we are projecting reverence onto others and see them more worthy of respect, somewhere inside we can feel that it is not true. Somewhere, if we are really honest with ourselves, we know this. Nor is an attitude of reverence healthy when it is simply looking within. Then it is narcissism.

When you are in the world in a state of reverence, you very clearly see and feel that everything is alive. This life force that infuses everything is sacred. Walking in the world in reverence wakes us up to the lived experience of the sacredness in matter. Again, to know this fully, we know it both in the inner world and in the outer world.

Healthy reverence, like healthy love, is like a mirror. AND, when I am truly open to the divine, I am in awe…complete and total awe. This human self cannot even comprehend, on any level, the vastness of this love. This love is something I, as a human being, can never really know; at least that’s been my experience.

Yes, it’s paradoxical.

What are one or two ways that you practice reverence regularly?

I think you are familiar with the pictures I take? For me, this is a reverential practice. It’s as if I am drawn to flowers, especially when the light comes through the petals. The beauty of flowers captivates me.

A second practice is my dance practice. I’ve been doing the 5Rhythms for ten years, now.

I absolutely love to dance and it is a beautiful way to pay reverence to the body and soul, and to life itself. Dance is a way to celebrate the very miracle of being alive in a body, the joy of pure expression by moving to another sacred art form – music.

What advice can you give my humble readers for becoming more reverent?

Tune into the offering that life is. When we withhold our own love, we are withholding the very offering that is life. In every moment, all is given. Can you open to this, not as a thought but as lived experience?

Life is a flow of giving and receiving. Open your heart to what life is offering. Receive it in, fully. Be nourished by it. Feel the essence of this love deep within your heart. Recognize that there is never a shortage of love, except when we withhold it.

Then we believe it is scarce. This has been something that’s taken me decades to really know.

When we feel the experience of receiving such grace, we can’t help but feel the corresponding yearning to give of ourselves from the deepest places of the heart and soul.

About Julie: A dancer at heart, Julie would love nothing more than to live her life and do her work from the dance floor. Ten years in the practice of 5Rhythms has opened her to the joy and wildness that is at the heart of women’s creativity. A writer, teacher, coach, and yes, dancer, Julie savors life playing with her wee grandchildren, and serving the women and men who are called to work with her. Julie is happiest when she is breathing through her feet. Connect with Julie on Twitter.